We all have fantasies, and we have what we get in life. I could write volumes as to why we each like what we like in love, sex, relationships, and all, but I think I've addressed that already elsewhere, so this is more devoted to what I like and what I want sexually.
First off, I love passion, getting totally lost in erotic and complete fulfillment and gratification, and that means not only my own gratification, but I enjoy even more making my lovers go spastic with pleasure.
Here bluntly is most of what I like.
I love pussy. I love women when they are so lost in pleasure that they are breathless and unable to speak except to make moans and squeals of pleasure. I love being drenched in sweat and juices and collapsing in exhaustion.
One on one, my favorite things are 69's, eating pussy, and getting head while I have a finger or two in their pussy or on their clit. I like almost any comfortable position, and like switching positions, and I like that to last three to five hours for the first run.
I love eating pussy even after I cum in it. The mix of both flavors is beyond words to me, and the idea of blending physically with someone I desire to blend with spiritually. But remember that this really has to be with someone I like or love, and can respect. If I can't find something good about someone I'm with I don't want to be with them, and I think that matters, because once session after session is done, I want to be embraced to my lover.
As far as beyond that basic one on one experience which is more driven by love, U have had and I like sex when there are three or more. There also has to be a chemistry there as well. I am far from gay, but when it gets that wild gender doesn't so much matter. But I have no desire for sex without there being a woman there, so it all centers upon bringing a woman pleasure. I think a woman getting it from two or three men at the same time is just as amazing as it is with more than one woman at a time. I have some favorite positions, among them is being on the bottom of a 69 and having the woman on me being fucked from behind, watching and eating her pussy getting fucked while my dick gets sucked by her. In a couples thing that adds having another woman fucking me while she is being eaten by the girl who is on me. When it comes to two girls, that standard of one on the face and one on the dick, as they face and kiss each other, is my favorite, followed by fucking one girl as she eats out another, or getting into an oral triangle. I eat one, she eats another, that one sucks me.
Two guys and one girl is okay with that, but I don't and won't ever stick my dick in any man's ass or have one in mine, thank you...
I used to have a lifestyle and some friends who would orgy together every once in a while, and it was great. For the most part we'd stay one on one with our love interest, but sometimes we'd have some wild fun where almost anything goes. Sex should be more recreational and less hung up on repression like it is. There is nothing like cumming in the mouth or pussy of one woman as they both cum at the same time you do, or cumming in the mouth of a girl who is having a load of cum shot inside of her. I also love that sandwich thing, or having a girl or two gangbanged and having them airtight, or being there with a group of bisexual girls as the dick in the room they share.
But when that concludes, I have no problem with getting right back to the daily one on one, and I don't want to be there without my lover or lovers.
I think adding people is something a couple can and should share once a month or so. It isn't for an every night thing. And more than even that, I want my wife to loosen up to get that way, and to have one or two lovers we can have friendships with.
I am one of those guys who can have sex for five hours and cum six times and still have to go jerk off once they fall asleep. I can't help it that I like sex that much or think about and might want multiple partners to experience multiple orgasms with once in a while. It is and has been my nature since my first erection. I have tried just about everything, so I know what I like, and it is the passion, warmth, tenderness, and wild abandon that attracts me to it all. It was normal for the Greeks and Romans and many other cultures, I just think our culture has gone so Puritan... I should have been born in Denmark or Sweden....
I think sex on that level is healthy. It can keep you in shape and stress free. I love the human body, and I don't care if a woman is 17 or 70, I look at he level of maturity and their character as a human being to determine if they are worth my effort. Sex is the most intense overall expression of connection and love you can have with another human being, and the intimacy and tenderness is simply rewarding. The problem is people try to own each other in too many ways. You can find someone you are attracted to and can be with them and have better sex that you ever could with your mate, or spouse, and even if you were with them wind up with a better relationship than the person you are devoted and committed to, but just because that is possible loyalty is important, so you remember that, and that someone loves you, and you can then walk away from even a one night stand or someone close to you you'd be better off with and return to your commitments satisfied that you had that connection and just knowing that deeper depth was possible is rewarding enough. You get to carry it with you, and in a way it is always there.
How do I survive my marriage? Now I have slept with a few women and never really looked for "extra" until and after years of my wife putting conditions on and denying sex so often, but it is rare and a sanity saver I employ only after a long time denied and where it won't haunt me or intrude-and it has been a long time since I have. O never really went looking for it either. Some women can spot a man in need and can recognize a man who will and wants to satisfy them, and still respects them. Sex does heal and fulfills. It is great for the ego, and life gets frustrating and depressing without it.
Without it you wind up bitter and unhappy or sad, then get mean, and I don't like those feelings, and passion and romance cure that for me, which makes me better for and to my wife, so in a really weird and round-about way, having other sexual encounters was actually healthy for my marriage.
I honestly wish my wife would slut out a little and even would like to get her something young and cute to cougar out on for a night for her. Years of depression and attitude and repressive thoughts and beliefs have made her lose much of her basic lust. That, to me, is sad. I'd be happy for her if I came home and found her ankles around her ears. Maybe it would spark something she's lost. That isn't cheating. I would be jealous if love was denied me in favor of another, but sex and love can be and are distinctly different, and sometimes the one you live with or are most familiar with simply doesn't remind you what is important.
More than that I wish she would find a woman who could be her best friend and share everything, and maybe become lovers with. I want her to find a best friend. There are a few other women I can see her take that leap with. I didn't ever think I'd consider age, but most I have that passing though about are younger, but that fits because I still see my wife as young a good part of the time.
I know, all men think it but I'm stupid enough to openly say it. But that also means, while it puts me in the dog house for knowing what I want and making it known, I am just a bit more honest about who and what I am and what I want. I wish I could be the kind of guy who wants only one, but in a way I am. I want only one main love and partner, but I also want some of our friendships to include passion and romance. If I kept that a secret it would eat at me more, and it would make me dishonest, and at least posting it shares it and takes away some of that privacy to the thought in some ways. It vents the unspoken thoughts. I am a product and victim of Western repressive culture. Yeah, I should have been from Finland.
I'd love for Judy and I to have a friend that close to both of us, even live with. As long as I have Judy's love and am not denied that's fine. I just think my view of things makes great sense. Now if she could just see it my way.